Kay Warren: What Not to Say to Someone Who is Grieving

Kay Warren took a moment to share what to say and what not to say when someone is grieving. Unfortunately, Kay is no stranger to grief. Kay and Rick’s son committed suicide two years ago. Their son, Matthew, was 27 years old and suffered from borderline personality disorder.

Kay told Christianity Today, “I can tell you the experience of losing my 27-year-old, mentally ill son a year ago was not at all the same as losing my dad. He died young. He took his life, and he did it in a violent way. We are scarred. We have two decades of living with a severely mentally ill person that traumatized us. It’s not clean grief. There’s guilt. There’s regret. There’s horror.”

Kay and Rick have made great efforts to raise awareness of mental illness in the church. Take a few minutes to listen to Kay’s heart and learn from her:

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Esther Laurie
Esther Laurie is a staff writer at ChurchLeaders.com. Her background is in communication and church ministry. She believes in the power of the written word and the beauty of transformation and empowering others. When she’s not working, she loves running, exploring new places and time with friends and family. It’s her goal to work the word ‘whimsy’ into most conversations.