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So We’re Unmarried but Living Together—What’s the Big Deal?

Couples Living Together are a Tremendous Opportunity

Living together before marriage is not going anywhere. It is a widely accepted and culturally approved means of relationship between an unmarried man and woman. Instead of trying to change culture and popular opinion, we want to lead cohabiting couples to experience changed hearts through the supernatural work of the Holy Spirit.

Counseling cohabiting couples is a tremendous opportunity to love and serve them while leading them to a hopeful future in Christ. Their first impression of your church and Jesus might be the interaction they have with you in discussing their living situation. In doing so, reflect God’s grace well to them.

Resources:

Living Together: Myths, Risks and Answers, by Mike and Harriet McManus

Premarital Sex in America: How Young Americans Meet, Mate, and Think about Marrying, by Mark Regnerus and Jeremy Uecker

The National Marriage Project

The Downside of Cohabiting Before Marriage,” New York Times