3. How do I deal with awkward silences after I ask a question?
Silence can sometimes indicate you need to restate the question better. Launch questions that get people talking about themselves. If your group still isn’t opening up, set aside Bible study and discussion time for a few weeks and provide ways for your group to get to know each other in different settings.
Silence could also mean you need to practice more patience. Wait for about 20 seconds after you ask a question for your group to reflect and think. If your group still doesn’t answer, make eye contact with someone directly (i.e., “John, what do you think about …?”) You can also prompt the discussion by being the first to answer your own question.
Dave Treat, Director of Innovation for Group Life at Willow Creek Community Church, shares more. Check out his two-minute free online training video clip on SmallGroupExchange.com under the video: Dave Treat :: What do I do if my group won’t talk?
4. What if I don’t know an answer to a question?
Consider bouncing that question right back for your group to answer. Let them know you don’t know the answer but are interested in their feedback. Tell them you’d be glad to research that one later and get back to them. Being open allows for your group to see you’re all on the journey together. Tough questions, even though intimidating, can carry your group into new depths spiritually and relationally.
Mark Batterson, Pastor of National Community Church, shares more. Check out his two-minute free online training video clip on SmallGroupExchange.com under the video: Mark Batterson :: What do I do when someone asks a tough question?
5. What do I do when there’s conflict?
Even though it’s really tempting, don’t run away from the inevitable conflict. Bring it to the surface by going to that person alone. Find out what’s driving the conflict (Prov. 20:5). Is something triggering a selfish attitude, a constant need to talk or a critical tone of voice? God speaks about what to do with conflict all throughout Scripture (Matt. 18). Aim for healthy conflict that will build community and not tear it down.
Hopefully these suggestions, along with other free online video training from SmallGroupExchange.com, will encourage you all the more to lead and grow your group to its fullest potential.
