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3 Crucial Conversations Parents Should Have With Their Preteens

2. Responsibility/Becoming an adult

Your preteen has probably voiced that they aren’t a baby anymore. They are right. However, as a parent you know that they have a long way to go in the responsibility department. Let them make choices and hold them accountable for those choices. This is the time that you start to give things away to your kids if you haven’t already.

Did you know back in the day, adults were considered people over the age of 13? Teenager was a word that was coined by Reader’s Digest, not by doctors or psychologists. Do you believe that your child has what it takes to be a single minded, Christ-centered, biblically anchored, world changer?

If not do a self-assessment on how much you believe in your child. If you don’t believe in them, it’s on you not on them. Paul tells us that God equips all of us:

God has given each of us the ability to do certain things well. So, if God has given you the ability to prophesy, speak out when you have faith that God is speaking through you. 7 If your gift is that of serving others, serve them well. If you are a teacher, do a good job of teaching. 8 If your gift is to encourage others, do it! If you have money, share it generously. If God has given you leadership ability, take the responsibility seriously. And if you have a gift for showing kindness to others, do it gladly.

Romans 12:6-8

If your kid has to prove to you that they have what it takes, it has more to do with your outlook on the ability of God to equip than your child’s shortcomings.

Please believe in your child.