Kidmin Leaders: You Can Be Replaced

That’s not meant to be a threat or insult. Maybe if your manager called you into his office and said, “You can be replaced,” it would feel a little uncomfortable. But it’s true.

I wrote a very applicable post about this in August called “Imagine you are gone.” It speaks specifically to this idea that one day you will be gone and, even though it doesn’t seem even remotely possible, the ministry you tirelessly lead will go on without you. We end up frustrating ourselves (and burning ourselves out) because we put ourselves in a place where our ministries will fail without our presence. We feel trapped, and often we feel like we’re drowning. However, the moment you step out, it’s only a matter of time until someone steps in or steps up to what you were doing. Wouldn’t it be better to find that person before you’re burnt to a crisp, so you can lead for the long haul? They’re there—because they’re going to step up or step in when you’re gone. See if you can’t find them now.

Here’s why this is so important. Yesterday I wrote a post called “Five Reasons Why You Need to Go to Church.” I got a handful of messages about that post, and I’m pretty sure there are many people who thought some things but didn’t say anything. Here’s what what communicated and not communicated to me.

  • I can’t go to the main service because if I did, no one could teach ____________.
  • I can’t go to the main service because there wouldn’t be anyone to ____________.
  • I can’t go to the main service because we only have one service.

These seem like reasonable excuses, but they’re not good ones. Hold on before you get frustrated.

I dare you. Ask anyone who has been leading in healthy, growing ministry for more than 10–15 years if they disagree with me. You won’t find them, because I’m right.

We often get our priorities out of order. We dive into a new role and put our focus on improving the program, building attendance or doing _________ where probably the best thing we can do early on is to build a team. Cast vision for what you’re going to build and do it with others. That trapped and drowning feeling usually comes as a result of having built an event or program without having built a team first.

So a very important question you should ask yourself is, “Who can do ____________ for me so that I can do something even more critical?”

Bottom line. You’re going to get sick and someone is going to have to run things when you’re gone. You’re going to go on vacation (or else your spouse is going to kill you) and someone is going to have to run things while you’re gone. One day you’re going to step out of your role on your terms or someone else’s and someone is going to run things while you’re gone. If all these things are true (and they are), then the best thing you can do is figure out how to find those people who are going to run the show when you’re gone and put them on a schedule so that you don’t create a ministry that depends on your constant presence.

This is how you are able to go to church. Even if your church only has one service, you should be able to make it into the main service once every three weeks or so. Making to church 16–20 times a year is better than what you’re probably doing now.

So who is going to replace you?  

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Kenny Conley is the primary author of Childrens Ministry Online and the NextGen Pastor at Gateway Church in Austin, TX. In addition to creating the Illuminate Conference, a high quality kidmin conference designed specifically for volunteers, Kenny is a published author and speaker.