Last week was Orange Week where many #kidmin & #stumin leaders immersed themselves in a conversation surrounding the 5 components of the Orange Philosophy by the reThink Group. One of those components is Reactivate Family. You can read a series of posts here.
The concept of Reactivate Family is also the primary theme of the D6 Movement. If you’ve never heard of D6, you should check it out immediately. It’s a ministry catered to reconnecting parents with kids. As I was writing my post on Reactivate Family, I shot Matt Markins an email asking him for his thoughts.
Matt Markins is one of the co-founders of the D6 Movement and is hard at work preparing for the D6 Conference this fall. Though he has little spare time, he graciously took a few minutes to share his thoughts with us. Enjoy the following perspective and share some comment love at the end.
I think one of the ‘unspoken’ themes in Deuteronomy 6:4-9 is the equity and the power of the relationship factor. How are we supposed to “talk to your kids when we sit at home, walk along the road, when we get up, and when we lie down” if we have no relationship with them and if they have no respect for us as they grow older? The relationship is the channel or the pipeline (as Dr. Richard Ross says) through which the gospel of Jesus Christ passes from one generation to the next.
Things like the “family game night” or “date nights” (we do Daddy Dates in our home) keep the laughter rolling and the conversations forging ahead which keeps the relationship pipeline open. If parents want to have a godly influence over the lives of their kids (and we hope that they will want this!) the relationship is sooooo important. Unfortunately many dads value/demand peace and respect to the point where they end up squelching the relationship just to receive a false sense of peace and respect in the home. I think a great resource to help with this is Dr. Richard Ross 30 Days. Another thing that can help dads (even earlier in life than 30 days) is Fred Stoeker’s “Doing Book” which you can get from his book “Preparing Your Son for Every Man’s Battle”. I think these two methods are very helpful in keeping the relationship channel’s open.
The bottom line challenge as I see it though is “how” to motivate the family/parents to actually change their behaviors to “do” this very, very important stuff. I think a large part of answering the “how” is found in Reggie’s #1. Integrated Strategy and # 2 Refine the Message . When everyone in the leadership is on the same page it magnifies our potential for breakthrough success of motivating or reactivating the family. I am thankful for churches who see the vision from scripture and who are actually taking the time to “reThink” their spiritual formation model, and am prayerful that so many more will do the same to strengthen the family, the church, and ultimately the kingdom.
Thank you, Matt, for your thoughts and your work with D6. Your efforts to inspire and equip families goes further than you will see in this lifetime. Yet it is celebrated in Heaven. May God continue to bless this ministry.