When Kids Ask Tough Questions

Kids can ask some deep questions, can’t they? In the last few weeks, I’ve had several parents come to me and say, “Help…my child is asking questions I don’t have answers for.” If you are a parent or work with kids, I am sure you can identify.

So…what do you do when kids ask those deep, tough, theologically challenging questions? Here’s some tips when answering kid’s questions or giving advice to a parent on how to do so.

  • Remember it’s natural for kids to ask questions. Some kids may ask deeper questions than others depending on their personality and IQ level. 
  • Affirm the child for asking the question. Don’t accuse them of “doubting” or “having a lack of faith.”
  • Let them know it’s okay to ask “Why?” Jesus asked “why?” on the cross.
  • Acknowledge that it’s good for kids to ask questions. It means they are truly seeking answers and trying to own their faith. 
  • Seize the opportunity to go with them to the Bible for the answers. What a great opportunity to point them to God’s Word and discover truth together.
  • Remember that normally kids 7 1/2 years and under think concretely, not abstractly.
  • Many times the questions will come at a time of tragedy or uncertainty such as a death of someone close, a natural disaster, family turmoil, or a life transition. Use the questions during this time as a teachable moment. And remember, sometimes the best answer in these situations is to just be there.
  • Remember you don’t have to know it all. It’s okay to say “I don’t know.”

 Here’s a funny video to illustrate this tip:

What are some of the deepest, funniest questions kids have asked you?
What are some tips you can share about answering kids’ tough questions?

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Dale Hudson has been serving in children's ministry for over 30 years. He is an author, speaker and ministry leader.  He is the founder and director of Building Children's Ministry. BCM helps churches build strong leaders, teams and children's ministries.  (www.buildingchildrensministry.com)