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Is There a Place for Real Complex Women in Your Church?

“The women blazing the trail in Hollywood are under a lot of pressure” writes TIME.

They are fighting for lead roles, feminist plotlines, and equality as writers, directors and actors. Their weapons? Comedy, Blockbusters, and punchy characters played by complex women.

Another TIME article titled In Praise of This Summer’s ‘Complicated Women’ writes, “It’s a common complaint among female actors, directors and screenwriters: Studios always want ingénues. They want nice girls. And that’s too bad because nice girls are no fun. They don’t generate the sort of conflict necessary to carry a good film and thus are usually sidelined to a damsel or sidekick role.”

This summer revealed a change in the winds. Multifaceted women are starting to create quite a presence on and off screen. Again, TIME writes:

“But this summer, what we’ll call “complicated women” are beginning to grace the big-budget, high profile films usually reserved for difficult men and compliant ladies. (Move over Tony Stark and Pepper Potts.) These “complicated women” may be sarcastic, scathing or difficult. They might be stronger than the dudes around them and not afraid to show it. They definitely do not take any crap. And they’re way more fun than the “likable” and “relatable” girlfriends, princesses and moms often featured in summer blockbusters.”

Women in the church, are we doing the same? Are we fulfilling key roles in the church? Are we leading in a way that is vulnerable, strong, and filled with ingenuity?

Pastors, is there a place for real complex women in your church to lead in real and complex roles?

Feminism can get a bad name. That word doesn’t seem to be in the church’s vocabulary, but there’s no reason to fear it. Feminism is about equality with others – it’s not a vicious attempt to be better than others and it’s not about taking our tops off, rest assured. Women played crucial roles in church history – we just don’t hear about it as much.

I know not everyone reading this will agree with me. That’s okay. I’m coming from a position where I believe God created men and women equally in His image. We can learn from each other to grow and further the kingdom. If you’re curious, I really enjoyed this book on the topic. Life is too short and the kingdom is too important not to value and nurture everyone’s God-given gifts and callings.

Instead of standing on the street corner with my sign and shouting “we need more female leaders in the church,” (not helpful), I’m going to say we need to cultivate an environment where everyone can grow, serve and lead together as equal teammates in the Kingdom of God. So, what are we going to do about this?

Men and women in the church, lead where you are, as you are, by the grace and wisdom of God. Own what you can and do your part – for yourself and for other young leaders around you – both male and female. You pave the way for them.

For all the female leaders out there – whether you’re a stay at home mom, teacher, nurse, CEO, pastor, artist, barista or scientist – Be your own leading lady. Don’t play the best friend role or the damsel in distress when you were born to stand up and lead. Find your voice and your style and lead like you. Be your wise, educated, cunning, loving, spirited, humble and available self.

This is more than a chant for “more women in leadership!” – this is about nurturing the calling in every man, woman and child and creating a space for the fulfillment and explosion of that calling.

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Esther Laurie is a staff writer at churchleaders.com. Her background is in communication and church ministry. She believes in the power of the written word and the beauty of transformation and empowering others. When she’s not working, she loves running, exploring new places and time with friends and family. It’s her goal to work the word ‘whimsy’ into most conversations.