(“There is not trust without boundaries.”)
(“I can only trust you if you do what you say you’ll do” again and again.)
(“I can only trust you if when you make a mistake, you’re willing to own it, apologize for it and make amends. I can only trust you if when I make a mistake, I am allowed to own it, apologize and make amends.”)
(Keeping a confidence)
(Brown’s definition of integrity: “Choosing courage over comfort, choosing what’s right over what’s fun, fast or easy, and practicing your values not just professing your values.”)
(You and I both can struggle and ask for help)
(“Our relationship is only a trusting relationship if you can assume the most generous thing about my words, intentions and behaviors. And then check in with me.”)
If we understand Brene Brown’s definition of trust, we can better identify and communicate where we are hurt or in need of more trust. This will help begin a healthful and non-threatening conversation with our partner, friend or family member.
This could alter our relationships because it gives us a common vernacular and understanding of the components of trust. Sometimes we can’t quite put our finger on why we feel off, but this gives us a structure to pin point what isn’t working quite right.
But first we must trust ourselves. “Because if BRAVING relationships with other people is BRAVING connection, self-trust is BRAVING self-love; self-respect, the wildest adventure we’ll ever take in our whole lives.”
Do you trust yourself? Sometimes we’re the hardest person to trust, but that’s where trust starts. Our own marble jar must be full. We can’t give to others what we don’t have, and others can’t give to us what we don’t have.
Brown said, “If you struggle with trust, the thing to examine first is your own marble jar. Because we can’t ask people to give to us something that we do not believe we’re worthy of receiving. And you will know you are worthy of receiving it when you trust yourself above everyone else.”
What if trust is part of my daily walk with God lived out in relationships and various connections, challenges and decisions throughout the day? What do you think of Brene Brown’s definition of trust? Agree or disagree?