It’s OK to Be Single

The reasons why are practical. Paul explains:

32 I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. 33 But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, 34 and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. 35 I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord. (1 Cor 7:32–35)

Single people worry about God, while married people often worry about their family. In this sense, it simply is a matter of priorities. If we are devoted to God, singleness can and does provide us the means to pursue that singular devotion. Hence, Paul advises, “To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am.” So what is Paul’s advice to single people? Stay single, and pursue God since marital relationships can create anxiety (1 Cor 7:32–35).

So marriage is good and being single is good. God overwhelmingly gifts us with the desire for marriage, whereas he less often calls us to celibacy. Both gifts, however, must exist in the kingdom of God, acted out in local churches, to ensure that the body of Christ uses each part of the body for the sake of edification and maturity.

It’s OK to be Single

It’s OK to be single. To deny a role to the singles is to cut off part of the body. And that is something we must never do. Does the hand say to the eye, “I have no need of you?” Likewise, the marrieds must never say (or think), “I have no need of single people.”


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