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8 Terrible Reasons To Leave a Church

If there is something not offered at your church, odds are it’s due to one of two reasons:

1) What you want doesn’t fit within the church’s strategy.
2) What you want can’t be offered without straining the church (financially, leadership, staff, etc.).

If the problem is the strategy and you can’t live without your pet ministry, then you might be happier elsewhere. But, if the problem is lack of funding and/or leadership, stop asking for something new and offer to help launch something new.

5. I Don’t Know Anyone and Nobody Knows Me.

Well, join a small group. Join a volunteer team. We should never leave a church because it’s too big – especially when engagement solves our tension. Small groups and volunteer teams are what make big churches small.

6. I Don’t Like How They ______________.

Spend money. Save money. Hire staff. Fire staff. Change ministry offerings. Elect elders. And on and on.

In some cases, what you don’t like might be a reason to leave, but most are not. If you are frustrated, seek to understand before you seek out a new church home. The majority of church leaders lead with their church’s best interest in mind. And with your best intentions in mind.

Now, if leaders prove untrustworthy, then leaving the church is probably best. It’s nearly impossible to fully engage in any church with untrustworthy leadership. But before we jump to any conclusions, we should first ask questions, seek to understand, and then make informed decisions.

7. You Are the Focus of Your Church Experience.

Every single point above could be summarized by one word: “ME.” If church is about you, you will always be disappointed. Sure, the church should help you spiritually. Church should be a place that you love and are loved. But the church is not about you. It’s about God and His kingdom. It’s about serving, giving, and growing. In short, it’s about others. If you ever consider leaving a church, check first to see if you are your problem.

8. This Church Is Too Political.

Okay, there are certainly some churches that are hyper-political. And they should cease and desist immediately. But, most churches aren’t all that political. They are focused on theology, not political ideology. Unfortunately, too many church attendees can’t differentiate between the two, wanting their Sunday morning sermon to match their Monday morning cable new network.

“This church is too political” is often code for “this church doesn’t seem to support my politics.” This is what people tend to say about apological churches. If a church doesn’t take any political stands, they are called “too political” only because they aren’t openly politicking in your direction. So stop saying this, church people.

How’s That for a List?

Of course, this is not to say you should never leave a church. I’ve left two churches in the past for good reasons. But when we leave churches for the wrong reasons, we hurt the church and hamper our next church. No church can succeed with a congregation of “me’s.” So my encouragement is to become part of the “we” before you exit for greener pastures.

What did I miss? Or do you believe some of these ARE good reasons to leave your church? I’d love to know by leaving a comment below.

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