Among children in two-parent families, those living with both biological parents in a low-conflict marriage tend to do better on a host of outcomes than those living in step parent families, including higher academic performance, social achievement, and psychological adjustment.
Bottom line – committed marriage relationships produce stability on all levels in children’s lives.
When kids know mom and dad are together forever, it also provides…
2. An Example of Biblical Marriage
God created marriage for keeps – one man, one woman, for one lifetime. And not just for the benefit of the husband and wife, but for the benefit of the children as well. Kids need to know that regardless of what happens, good or bad, mom and dad are committed to each other for life.
Kids also need to see and understand that their parents are committed to doing things God’s way, because when they don’t, the consequences can be devastating. Those who have been through divorce know the pain for both them and their children, and would never want that for their children’s future marriages.
According to Christina Steinorth, author of “Cue Cards for Life: Thoughtful Tips for Better Relationships”, it’s no secret that children of divorced parents are more likely to get divorced. According to Steinorth, studies indicate that daughters of divorced parents have a 60% higher divorce rate in marriage, and sons have a 35% higher divorce rate. “Part of the reason is that when parents are divorced, it seems to send a message in a non-direct way that divorce is acceptable”, she says.
What our kids need to see is an example of biblical marriage patterned after God’s design.
3. A Pattern Worth Following
The benefits of children being raised in a home with parents in a committed marital relationship are many, but one of the greatest benefits is that they are more likely to follow the pattern set for them by their parents and have a successful marriage themselves.
While there’s no 100% money back guarantee, here’s the #1 best way to guarantee that your kids will have a successful marriage someday…Model One For Them!
Make Marriage Look Good by visualizing for your kids the type of marriage they’ll want to have someday for themselves – two people committed to and enjoying one life. Together. Forever.
Parents, staying together both while your kids are still at home as well as after they leave greatly impacts your children. If you can’t remember the last time you’ve verbally reassured your kids of your life-long love for and commitment to one another, maybe it’s time. Your kids need to know that you are TOGETHER FOREVER.
And if you are raising children as a single parent, or in a second marriage, intentionally help your kids know that God’s grace is always greater, and help them learn from your mistakes so that they don’t have to repeat them.
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