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So You Love Jesus, But Hate the Church?

It almost seems as if there is nothing new under the sun. It almost feels as if we’ve heard this story before: Leaders in the church world, who built their empires and fortunes off of the church, say we don’t need the local church anymore—that it’s become irrelevant.

It’s a common statement in our generation—people say they “love Jesus, but hate the church.” Or at least don’t feel very excited about the church. Jesus seems cool. The local churches they’ve been to seem very boring.

But if the church is Jesus’ bride, as the Bible tells us, it’s impossible to love one and hate the other. 

Can you imagine telling your friend—you’re awesome, but I hate your wife, she’s boring and irrelevant to me. Really?

That friendship would end fast. And while you may still feel how you feel, your friend wouldn’t feel very liked at all, because you hated on the most important thing in their life—part of their very flesh and soul, and the greatest joy in their life.

Don’t get me wrong. Sometimes going to church is difficult, even painful. Here are some vulnerable thoughts on why we must choose to love the church, if we claim to love Jesus:

1. It’s just an hour a week.

While church is more than just about a weekly service, we are talking only one hour a week worshiping and listening to a sermon. Even if the music is really bad, and the sermon is poor, it’s just one hour.

I can’t help but wonder how anyone who really loves Jesus would be unwilling to give one hour out of 168 hours in their week to Christ’s bride.

If it’s important to God (and He says so in His Word), then it should be important to me if God is important to me.

2. It’s OK if it doesn’t feel OK.

There are times for all of us when church doesn’t feel fun or exciting, and sometimes it even feels painful, like going to the dentist. (But all of us know the dentist is important even though it’s painful. Same with the church.)

It’s OK to not feel OK, but we should go to church anyway—those might be the times we need it the most. Don’t base your faith on your feelings. Feelings will come into line by God’s power and grace in our life over time, and we will realize God knows best—every time.

Yes, we need to fight for joy in obeying God’s commands, but sometimes this is a process. Some seasons, church is a great joy to us and life-giving community, and other seasons, it feels like we are carrying a cross. 

But shouldn’t this happen sometimes? Jesus said if we wanted to follow Him, we would have to pick up our cross daily. There will be seasons of our life where following Jesus feels like we are carrying a cross. Dying to self feels that way. 

If we cut out or avoid the parts of our Christian life where we feel like we are carrying our cross, we will be immature. 

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Matt Brown is an evangelist, author of Truth Plus Love (https://www.amazon.com/Truth-Plus-Love-Jesus-Influence/dp/0310355249/), host of Think Eternity with Matt Brown (https://www.accessmore.com/pd/Think-Eternity-with-Matt-Brown), and founder of Think Eternity (https://thinke.org) — a ministry helping people find fulfillment in Jesus through podcasts, blogs, videos, outreaches and more. Matt and his wife Michelle have four children and live near the Twin Cities, Minnesota. You can follow Matt at @evangelistmatt (https://x.com/evangelistmatt)