4. After a miscarriage, affirm the Sovereignty of God in this loss.
We rarely get answers to the questions wrapped up in a loss such as this, but we should always take the eyes of a Christian couple and fix them upon Christ and remind them that God is both sovereign and good in the midst of this loss. God has good and maturing purposes for them both in this suffering, and, just like in any loss, we must trust in the perfect plan of our sovereign God who comforts his people when we are afflicted. Read to the couple helpful passages from Scripture that affirm this truth (2 Cor. 1:3-7; James 1:2-4; Psalm 46; Psalm 139).
5. After a miscarriage, prepare them for future ministry opportunities.
In the uniqueness of this loss, God uses it to uniquely qualify a couple to later be that needed sympathetic voice to another couple who will walk through a similar pain. The best people to care for those who have experienced a miscarriage are others who have experienced it. God has time and time again reminded my wife and I of this. Remind that hurting couple you seek to minister to that God may very well be preparing them for the same opportunity one day. This loss is included in the promise that God works all things for the good of his people (Rom. 8:28).
Pastors, guard from trying to dismiss the seriousness of this loss. It is real, painful, and will require focused time to grieve and work through this loss. Sometimes the best thing to do is to sit with the couple, weep with those who weep, share your regret, and affirm this loss has not changed the good and kind God who formed each of us in our mother’s womb and numbered our days (and our children) before there was but one (Ps. 139:13-16).