When we think about the word love, we often associate it with feelings of chemistry and sexual pleasure. While it’s important to be physically attracted to your partner, the truth of the matter is that even with physical attraction intact, the feelings of “being in love” come and go because ultimately, loving someone is not about feeling, it’s about commitment and choice. A choice to be patient, kind, selfless, forgiving, gracious, humble and loyal until the end (1 Corinthians 13). When you meet someone who displays the ACTIONS of love, you’ve met a person worth holding onto.
We tend to get caught up, stressed out and freaked out trying to find this person who will be “the one.” But as you open your heart and life to the people God brings your way, remember that a healthy relationship isn’t about a magical moment, a spotlight from heaven or even a “gut feeling”—it’s about finding someone who fits with your life, your heart and your spirit: the five people you need in life, all rolled into one.
Debra Fileta is a Professional Counselor, national speaker and author of the book True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.You may also recognize her voice from her 100+ articles at Relevant Magazine or Crosswalk.com! She’s also the creator of this True Love Dates Blog, where she writes candidly about dating, relationships and how to find true love! Connect with her on Facebook or Twitter!
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