Whether the ‘us’ and ‘them’ mentality exists between factions in your church or between your church and the community, it’s always fatal to health and growth. The job of a leader is to raise vision high enough and urgently enough for all of us to become bigger than any of us. United, the church will always accomplish more than we will divided.
6. No one takes responsibility
So who’s going to fix your church?
Anybody but me.
As long as things are someone else’s fault, things will never get better.
A final sign your church is toxic is that no one takes responsibility. Instead, people just blame everyone else.
You can blame the culture, the pastor, the leader or anybody, but until you take responsibility, things will never get better.
Blame is the opposite of responsibility. Leaders who stop the blame cycle and take responsibility have the potential to usher in real change.
But, you say … “I’m not responsible for all of it.” True.
But you’re likely responsible for some of it. Own what you can. Own all you can.
If no one else does, still take responsibility.
You’ll get healthier. And if they don’t, you’ll leave and will eventually join a healthier church.
Health attracts health.
Craig Groeschel has a fantastic podcast episode on toxic church culture you can listen to here.
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