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Saying and Meaning “I Love You”

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We love to talk, think and sing about love. But, what does it mean? We don’t often think deeply about what love really is. Often we just mindlessly say “I love you” because it seems appropriate. We can leisurely toss the phrase around like we are playing frisbee at the park. It would seem that for a subject as important and enduring as love that we might want to have a handle on it and make sure we know what we are saying and then actually mean it.

This is especially true for Christians. Remember, we serve and worship a God who says that he is love (1 Jn. 4.8). He is the source and truest expression of love. Everything he does is loving. Further, God has told us that we can actually know what love is by looking at the doing and dying of Jesus for sinners like us: “By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us” (1 Jn. 3.16). At its very core then our understanding of love must carry the gospel scent. It must be reflective of God’s love, particularly in and through the gospel.

What then is love?

Let me try a definition. Love is the willful and joyful sacrifice of ourselves in the service of others so that they might be blessed.

This definition takes into consideration that the love that was displayed in the giving of Christ was willful. That is, it was not under compulsion. There was a mental ascent to this. God willed this. Jesus took the mantle willingly. It was also joyful. The Son delights to do the Father’s will and joyfully looked ahead to the full accomplishment and expression of this love (Heb. 12.2). It is also sacrificial in that the Father sacrificed, he gave his only Son for us (Jn. 3.16). Jesus himself laid down his life for his sheep (Jn. 10.11, 14-15). Furthermore, the work of Christ was service. This loving Savior served his people by laying down his life (Mk. 10.45). The One who washed his disciples’ feet also washed and cleaned their wounds from sin and Satan. This he did for the glory of God and our good, that is, that we might be blessed.

Oftentimes when many people say “I love you” they mean something like “I like you” or “I want you” or “I need you.” The trouble with all of these is they all speak out of a lack. This is a restless craving for fulfillment from other people. Often times there is not a whiff of sacrifice or service without the overwhelming perfume of self.