So many churches that aren’t growing wonder why they’re not growing.
Maybe you’ve wondered the same thing about your church or a friend’s church.
Of course, people point to many reasons why their church isn’t growing (I cover 10 frequent reasons in this post), but underneath all of them is one root cause: insider-focus.
Churches that stop growing almost always have lost their heart for outsiders.
Even if many say they’re still passionate about reaching new people, their actions deny their intentions.
So how do you know whether your church is focused on insiders?
Here are five tell-tale signs:
1. Personal preference drives decision-making
In insider-focused churches, member preference rules. Everything from the preaching to the music to the programming gets evaluated through the lens of whether people ‘like’ it or not.
As a result, people-pleasing rules. As soon as a church leader hears that member X isn’t happy, the expectation is that the leader will try to placate the member or make the changes necessary to keep him or her attending.
The challenge is there is zero objective standard.
The standard is whether people like it.
As a leader, you end up playing whack-a-mole because different people ‘like’ different things, and no one can agree on what they like. Which is exactly why churches end up adding far too much variety to their services and too much programming to their menus.
In your attempt to please everyone, you please no one. And besides, as I outline in this post, your church can’t be for everyone anyway.
Regardless, if personal preference drives decision-making, you will always make bad decisions.
2. Emotion trumps mission
Insider-focused churches have a mission, it’s just that no one lives by it because emotion trumps mission.
How does that happen?
Because members are so bent on pleasing themselves, discussion about future direction becomes very emotional: It becomes about what people feel, who’s happy, who’s not happy, who’s thinking of leaving, who might stay if X changes and what would need to happen for people to be satisfied again.
As a result, leaders make emotional decisions trying to appease the unappeasable, and congregations react in kind: emotionally.
Lost in all of this is one thing: The mission to reach people.