5 Expectations That Ruin a Marriage

Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: but made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men: and being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross. —Philippians 2:4–8

The world conditions us to expect. Glossy advertising, consumer-driven marketing, resorts, amusement parks…they all say, “You deserve more; let us give it to you.” Yet the world consistently underperforms. The higher our expectations the less satisfying reality becomes. Only a servant will be pleasantly surprised.

Do you want to transform your marriage? Leave selfish expectations at the cross, and pick up the only Christlike expectation—the expectation to serve.

P.S. This post is an excerpt from a new book Terrie and I are writing together. It is titled Are We There Yet? Marriage—An Perfect Journey for Imperfect Couples. We look forward to it being available through Striving Together Publications this summer.

This article originally appeared here.

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Paul Chappell
Dr. Paul Chappell is the pastor of Lancaster Baptist Church and the president of West Coast Baptist College in Southern California. Follow him on Twitter @PaulChappell and find him on Facebook. He and his wife, Terrie, have written a new book on marriage, Are We There Yet? Marriage—an Imperfect Journey for Perfect Couples. For more information on this book or to order, visit AreWeThereYetBook.com.