If you have the heart and passion to really have impact with leaders, you must have influence with them. You need to know what it takes to earn the right to speak into their lives. I have found what seems to be the most powerful endearing quality a leader needs in order to influence other leaders…
That may sound simple, but those you may influence are desperately seeking someone who really believes in them. It doesn’t matter how successful or green they are, all leaders need affirmation. They don’t want someone who just flatters and looks to use them in their own vision, but rather someone who genuinely listens and cares about their heart and vision.
So if you want to be a leader of leaders, you must believe in others; you have to speak the truth and life into them. Listen to their story and their heart without thinking how it can “fit” into your story. Honor their passion by giving them your full attention. Ask questions and listen intently without being distracted by others around you.
I can really speak to this…Honestly, because that was me. I would listen to another leader’s story and passion, but in the back of my mind, I would be thinking, “Hmmm, this doesn’t fit with what I’m doing…who else can I talk with?” It took being treated that way by someone else to open my eyes to my own self-centeredness and pride- that wasn’t fun!
Another leader wants to see, hear, and feel you genuinely care about them, their heart and passion. If they feel you just want to talk about what you are doing, what your vision is, without taking the time to really know them and hear their heart…You will have NO influence with that leader.
This is the challenge…
Love other leaders deeply from the heart; guard their vision by honoring them and believing in them. Genuinely care and love them. Those who can do that are rare gems! That’s why there aren’t many Leaders of Leaders.
Believe in someone the way you want someone to believe in you!