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3 Things I Wish I Knew in My Twenties

I wouldn’t rush or wish my life away. 

When I was a freshman in high school, I wanted to be a senior. 

When I was a freshman in college, I wanted to be a senior. 

When I was a rookie in the NFL with the Indianapolis Colts, I wanted to be a 10-year NFL veteran. 

True life, a life worth living, is being present in every circumstance.

Like the singer Junior said in a popular 1980s song, “Momma used to say, ‘Take your time, young man; don’t rush to get old. Live your life.’ ”

I wouldn’t be so arrogant.

I was clueless about life! And I was clueless about that, too! 

God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason. Shut up and listen. 

As a great football player, I felt entitled. And I was narcissistic. 

God loves us so much, He will orchestrate life in such a way that the arrogance will get beat out of us by people, circumstances, and pain. Thank you, Jesus, for beating that arrogance out of me. 

I would’ve appreciated people more. 

In my teens and early 20s, I saw people for what they could do for me. 

I conditionally appreciated people. “If you do this for me, I will do that for you.” 

I saw people as a way to reach my goals. I used them, and they used me. 

By God’s grace, I now see people as valuable because Jesus died for them. They are valuable to Him; therefore, they are valuable to me. 

Now, I exist to train and inspire people to glorify God by coaching (pastoring) them to release their God-given potential in this world.

I want to make people great, beginning with my best friend – my wife Vicki – then my awesome children, and then Transformation Church, and whoever else Jesus places in my path.

I hope these 3 reflections help you live well.

Marinate on that,

Pastor Derwin

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Derwin L. Gray is the founding and Lead Pastor of Transformation Church (www.tc521.org), a multi-ethnic, multi-generational, mission-shaped community in Indian Land, South Carolina, just south of Charlotte, North Carolina. Transformation Church was recognized as one of the 15 fastest growing churches in America for 2010 by Outreach Magazine. Gray is the author of "Limitless Life: You Are More Than Your Past When God Holds Your Future" and is a highly sought-after communicator. Connect with Derwin on twitter @Derwinlgray.