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7 LIES Ministry Wives Believe

As a pastor’s wife, I find myself fighting the same old internal battles that have plagued me from year one, only now I recognize them more quickly and have tools to combat them.

Do you think or believe these lies, too?

1. My identity is that of a ministry wife.

It doesn’t take much. Your husband is called to a church or you announce to your friends and family that you’re headed to the mission field, and suddenly you are labeled and introduced everywhere you go as The Pastor’s Wife or The Missionary.

The labels so quickly enter the heart, causing a subtle shift from identifying as a child of God, a Christian, to identifying as a role, a status, a label, a category.

As our identity wraps around our Ministry Wife label, we start questioning what a ministry wife does. What are the Ministry Wife’s activities? How do we measure our performance as The Missionary Wife?

This subtle shift tweaks our motivation and reason for ministry. It leads us away from the heart of God and our primary identity to pride and performance.

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My husband, Kyle, and I have been married since 2000 and have three boys. Kyle is the church planting pastor of a church in Virginia, and I am a stay-at-home mom, writer, and ministry sidekick to Kyle. My first book, "The Church Planting Wife: Help and Hope for Her Heart," is a book specifically for church planting wives. In addition, I just released my second book, "From Good to Grace: Letting Go of the Goodness Gospel."