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The Big Battle Plan for Attacking Adultery

1. Fornicating while single is an internship for adulterating in marriage.

Singles, sleeping around before you marry is not a way to prepare for fidelity in marriage.

2. Married couples must fight for fidelity with freedom and frequency.

Real Marriage and Celebration of Sex could be helpful books on this issue.

3. Before you cheat on your spouse, you have to cheat on God first.

You can’t break commandment #7 without first breaking commandments #1 and #2: Worship only God and you will not worship sex instead.

4. Sexual sin starts with your eyes, which then recruit your hands.

Jesus says, “Everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matt. 5:28).

5. To conquer your biology, stop seeing people sexually and start seeing them as family.

The Bible invites Christians to treat men like brothers and women like sisters, which is a loving, healthy framework for appropriate friendship with members of the opposite sex (1 Tim. 5:1–2).

6. Sexual purity requires both a passionate “want-to” and plan for “how-to.”

Legalism is when we impose on others a bunch of rules that aren’t in the Bible. Not good. Personal legalism is when we impose certain boundaries on ourselves because we know our weaknesses and vulnerabilities. The Bible doesn’t condemn HBO or require Covenant Eyes, but it’s unwise to order premium channels and/or not have an Internet filter if you struggle with pornography and sexual sin.

7. Men: Your manhood is not best expressed by conquering ladies, but rather by conquering lusts.

We are not animals. What we do with our bodies is worship that either honors God or dishonors God.

8. Ladies: Men are indeed a problem, but they are only half the problem.

9. Define your life forward, then live it backward.

A marriage filled with joy, kids and grandkids doesn’t happen by accident. Determine what a godly life looks like in the end, and then do what you’re supposed to do (and don’t do what you’re not supposed to do) in order to get there—by God’s grace and the power of the Holy Spirit.

10. Come clean before you get caught.