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Gender, Stereotypes and Being a Pastor’s Husband

The Lord could be telling you, “Hey man, look in front of you. Look at your wife, your nursery, your laypeople. There’s your talent. There’s your gifted workers. Now do something. Stop sticking people in stereotypical positions because that’s the easiest thing for you.”

One reason I believe we don’t see more female pastors, preachers and teachers is because of the “pastor’s wife” mentality. From an early age, we put young girls in the nursery to help. They grow up thinking that’s all they can do.

Why? They were put there, never given an opportunity, and all they see at their local church is women holding babies and men in a nice suit preaching.

Even if God came down from Heaven and told them to preach the Gospel, how would they even respond since they have no understanding that the opportunity even exists in today’s local church.

Men: We’re accountable.

God established order: God, man, woman.

That means we’re accountable for our spouses. When Eve took the fruit in the Garden of Eden, God looked at Adam.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want God to look at me and say: “Why did Kayla never reach her potential I gave her? It’s because of you, Matt.”

My wife is called to preach, teach and disciple. She’s going to preach, teach and disciple. If my wife is called to a great supporting role and to be an awesome stay-at-home mom, she’s going to be the best stay-at-home mother she can be.

No matter the calling, men, we’re accountable.

I encourage you to talk to your wives. What are her goals and desires? Are you helping or hindering them? Have you bought into the stereotype of a “pastor’s wife?” Or are you pushing her toward her God-given plans?

No matter the answer, it all starts with communication.