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3 Nasty Habits of Really Nice Church People

For the most part, church people certainly qualify for the title “nice,” but sometimes they do really inappropriate things. I personally have never been guilty of any of these faux pas, but maybe you have. 

(Incidentally, there are more than three nasty habits, but I have a luncheon to attend.) 

1. People enjoy, but sometimes don’t express thanks. 

Many Christians boast of their church’s phenomenal resources and programs but never financially support them in any way.  

Many claim to be faithful 10-percent-tithe givers, but church records show otherwise

These same people don’t say “Thank you” very often either for the things that they believe they are entitled to receive.  

The thinking goes something like, “The church was here before I got here and it will be here long after I go. They are NOT depending on me personally to keep them going.” 

Or …

“My parents gave to this church for years and years, so, I’m good.” 

It’s interesting how some Christians are responsible to HOAs, club dues or fitness facilities, but refuse to share the cost of “doing business” at their church. 

2.  People often make prayer requests that evolve into gossip. 

This is fairly subtle and operates at a low level like static electricity on your pant leg. It can go on a long time without being noticed … then, SNAP!

The mixed message of concern and ominous intrigue often sounds like this, “Hank can certainly use our prayers. You know he lost his six-figure job last month and is probably going to have to live on just his wife’s $42K teaching salary.” 

Everything except “Hank needs our prayers” is flat out hear-say and conjecture and is certainly nobody’s business. 

You should have to sign a nondisclosure agreement to enter a church! Laughable?

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Doug Lawrence is an internationally recognized speaker, author, and advisor, who helps churches assess and improve their skillfulness in creating engaging worship experiences. In 2007 he founded and continues to serve as CEO of Speaking as a Performing Art, a firm which coaches leading executives and their teams and includes pastors from across the country. Doug co-authored GPS for Success, published in 2011, with Stephen Covey and others. You may reach him at dlawrenceconsult@mac.com.