It’s almost frightening how quickly I embraced the thought. It was early evening, my husband home from work, and in the swirl of conversation and formulation of plans, I had a suggestion. It was something we could implement as a couple for the benefit of our marriage.
But we’d been down this road. Whether it was weekly date nights, nightly couple devotions or co-reading an edifying book, we’d take it up with vigor and start down the path only to watch it fizzle, foiled by life’s interruptions.
So the thought came easily—What’s the use?
I embraced it, and kept quiet.
That same evening, though, the Lord made me uncomfortable with my posture. As I prayed and pondered, I realized that I was giving ground to the enemy. Instead of standing firm and looking to the Lord to shore up this area, I’d given up. Retreated. I may as well have announced that I would no longer occupy this ground in my marriage. “Here, enemy, you can have it.”
This Is War
In our cozy kitchens, amid roasted chicken and good conversation, how easy it is to forget that we’re in a war. We are daily assaulted by thoughts and suggestions that ease into our stream of consciousness. They fit the situation perfectly and bend to our way of thinking. So we welcome them, though they are meant for our destruction.
The warning is clear in the word of God. Our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but it is against an entire demonic force (Ephesians 6:12, Ephesians 6.16″>16). And many of those schemes and arrows target our thoughts—including what we accept as true.
I believed the lie that there was no use pursuing a course that could benefit my marriage. It would only sputter and fail in the end. Where was my shield of faith to extinguish that arrow? Why didn’t I assume a soldier’s stance? Where was my fight?
There is much about which we could be dismayed as we view the state of marriage and family in this country. We may even be dismayed at the state of our own marriage and family. But with respect to the latter especially, we do well to remember that we are called as soldiers of Christ and, as such, called to fight.
1. We Fight for Our Families by Standing Firm.
As soldiers of the Lord Jesus Christ, our posture need never be one of retreat. We know that we stand firm by clothing ourselves in the Lord’s armor and strength (Ephesians 6:10–20). We know we have been given everything we need to withstand an attack. But often the problem is in realizing that we are under attack.