Communicating love to a spouse should be considered a never-ending, life-long commitment. If I’m honest, however, my wife is usually better at this than me.
Partly because of her personality and partly because she has a stronger relational aptitude than me and partly because she is awesome—but, for whatever reason—demonstrating love seems to come easier for Cheryl than for me at times.
I’m not talking about the quality of the love. I think I love Cheryl deeply. It’s that I’m not as good at “showing” my love.
I’m a work in progress. (I hope its OK to be honest that way.)
Plus, I’m to lead others. By example. I’m a pastor and teacher. People are trying to follow me. And, I believe, that should be in my marriage also.
So, how can I—how should I—communicate love to my wife?
And just to be fair, I don’t think I’m alone in that question.
I am actually asked this type question frequently by other men who—like me—sometimes wonder how to communicate love to their spouse.
That’s what this post is about—communicating love in a marriage.
For men who want to do likewise with their wives …
Here are three suggestions:
Continually learn her. The wife knows when we’ve stopped. All of us are changing. Our needs, wants and dreams are continually adapting to our experiences, circumstances and the world around us. We demonstrate love by desiring to know even more the one we love. Great couples ask questions of each other. Routinely. Intentionally. They explore each other’s hearts and minds on deeper levels; uncovering the unspoken desires of the heart. They spend quantity time together; even learning to love each other’s activities.