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Dear Preacher’s Kids …

8. Expect some in the congregation to be unloving or unkind.

By lowering your expectations, two things happen: a) You won’t be disappointed when someone is harsh or unloving, and b) you will appreciate those who are loving and generous and kind toward you and the family. But if you always expect everyone in church to be Christlike and understanding, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

Always remember that anyone can join a church, no matter their mental health or maturity level. Churches attract all kinds of people. A wise parent will work to protect his/her children, but they cannot always do that. So, be prepared and don’t let the harshness of a few hurt you or hinder your own faithfulness.

Learn to love the unloving, and you will honor Christ, bless your own life, please your parents and bear a strong witness.

9. Seize the opportunities coming your way.

Let me tell you something I’ve noticed over the years. On various college campuses when I would do ministry to student groups, often the most talented singers and most confident leaders were PKs who had been brought up in small churches. Because their youth groups were small and their dads were the preacher, they inherited leadership roles more by default than by talent. But as they served, they grew in ability and confidence, and now when they find themselves on a large stage—on a campus with thousands of peers—they’re ready to lead.

My oldest son was a soloist in childhood musicals. As a teen he sang in the church youth choir. In college, he became a member of an elite vocal ensemble that traveled and represented the school. In adulthood, he has often been a soloist in church pageants. The first training he received in singing took place in the family automobile as we traveled to grandma’s.

10. Encourage other PKs you will meet along the way.

You will occasionally come across the offspring of ministers who are angry at churches where their fathers served and who have not been to church in years. “I still believe in God,” some will say. “But not in Christians.” You can help them. After all, you’ve been there to one extent or other. You know some of what they are feeling.

Encourage them to keep their eyes on Jesus and to “do church,” not because people deserve it but because a) Christ commanded it and b) we need it.

Pray for them, and don’t expect them to automatically change because of your words. But give them time and give the Lord room to work.

God bless you for your faithfulness.