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How to Deal With People Who Don’t Like You

3 Ways To Deal With People Who Don’t Like You

1. Try to Understand Them.

Haters normally are people who have issues with themselves that they either refuse to resolve or maybe even refuse to acknowledge. What they hate about you:

1. Could be the one thing they hate about themselves, or

2. What they hate about you is really what they secretly admire about you.

So when they have a problem with you, understand that it is nothing personal with you. It is their personal issues. Try to walk a mile in their shoes and see things from their perspective. Instead of hating them you should feel sorry for them.

2. Be Kind to Them

Probably the hardest, yet the most character-defining thing you can do is to be helpful to people who are unkind to you. Showing kindness is not dependent on what you receive from people. Showing kindness depends on your character. What you do or say to others does not define them … it defines you  Remember that how they see and treat you is a reflection and extension of how they see and treat themselves. Most unkind people are harsh with themselves. So they extend it to others around them.

3. Pray for Them  

Jesus Himself has had His share of critics and haters. He did not only ignore them and continue with His mission, He also prayed for them. He orders us to do the same; pray for those who persecute you. The curses you say toward others can come back to you, but so can the blessings. He also said that when you offer peace, and the other person does not accept it, peace would come back to you. There is no losing on your part.

What are some of the ways you deal with people who don’t like you?  

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The Reverend Clarence E. Stowers, Jr. was born on December 2, 1966 to Dr. Clarence (deceased) and Margaret Stowers, Sr. in Evanston, Illinois. He began his spiritual pilgrimage at Mars Hill under the leadership of Dr. Clarence E. Stowers, Sr. He accepted his call to preach the gospel in 1991 and was licensed and ordained at Mars Hill.