7 Things Your Kids Will Remember About You

3. The times you made them feel safe (or the times you made them feel unsafe).

Kids Will Remember - Choices made in fear create regrets. Choices made in anger create pain. Choices made in love create hope.

There’s a vulnerability and a need for protection in the heart of every child. Your kids will remember those moments you chased the monsters from under their bed or held them after a nightmare, but they’ll also remember the times when your temper became the monster they feared. Our kids are probably going to see us angry sometimes, because that’s part of life, but make it your mission to make your children feel safe and secure at all times when they’re with you.

#4 is an important reminder for me every day...

4. The times you made time for them.

Kids will remember - If you are too busy to enjoy quality time with your family, then you need to re-evaluate your priorities.

Your kids don’t need you to be perfect, but they need you to be present. Children measure love primarily by our attentiveness to them. They need our undivided attention. The times you stop what you’re doing to have a tea party or go outside to throw a ball or jump on a trampoline will be memories etched into their minds and hearts forever. Take the time to do the little things with your kids, because in the end, they’ll be the moments that matter most.

#5 is SO important and it could change your marriage and your family dynamics...

5. The way you interacted with your spouse.

Our kids are forming their views of love in large part by watching how we treat our husband or wife. Strive to have the kind of marriage that makes them excited to get married someday. Give them the security that comes from seeing their Mom and Dad in a committed, loving relationship with each other.

Kids will remember - Your children are learning what marriage should look like by watching you. Treat your spouse the way you want your kids' future spouse to treat them someday.

#6 has more power than most parents realize...

6. Your words of affirmation AND your words of criticism.

Kids Will Remember - Be an encourager. The world has plenty of critics already.

A child’s heart is like wet cement, and the impression made early in life will harden over time. They’ll base their sense of identity, capability and even self-worth largely upon the words you speak to them in those formative years. Part of our job as parents is to correct and discipline, but even in correction, let your words be full of love, encouragement and positive reinforcement.

#7 is one of the biggest legacies that could extend to your children’s future children...

7. Your family traditions.

Kids love spontaneity, but they also have a deep need for predictability. They’ll remember with great fondness the “traditions” you establish, whether it’s a weekly family movie (or game) night, a place you regularly travel for family getaways, the way you celebrate birthdays and special events or any other special tradition. Be intentional about creating some traditions that they’ll want to pass onto their own children someday.

For more tools to help you build a happy and healthy family, check out our new website at DaveAndAshleyWillis.com

This article originally appeared here.

Kids Will Remember These 7 Things about You

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Dave Willis
Dave and Ashley Willis are the founders of StrongerMarriages.com and the authors of multiple books on marriage and relationships. They live with their four young sons near Augusta, GA where Dave serves as a Teaching Pastor for Stevens Creek Church. For additional resources, please visit DaveAndAshleyWillis.com.

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