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4 Lies That Cause Pastors to Neglect Their Families

4. If I don’t give the church everything, it will die.

Among the lies pastors believe, this is not only a rookie mistake; it’s a theological one. Christ is the head of his church—not us. And when we run ourselves ragged, when we neglect our families, we aim to stand in the place of the risen Lord Jesus, the Alpha and the Omega in Revelation 1, the one whose eyes are like fire.

As pastors, we must concern ourselves with simply being faithful because it’s God who brings growth to his bride. Yes, we should work hard, and we should work wisely. But we also need to trust God with our efforts among the body as we give first priority to our families. Christ is the head of the church, not us. And that’s a good thing.

As we struggle to apply all of this, we will fail. But God, in answer to prayer, will pour out his great grace over the lies pastors believe. Ask God for the faith to entrust your local church to him.

Let’s not resemble the man in Song of Solomon: “They made me the keeper of the vineyards; but mine own vineyard have I not kept” (1:6).

Our families are the closest people to us, and so our responsibility to disciple them and wash them in the Word is greatest.

Pastors, let’s trust God, and keep our own vineyards.

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