7. Lack of Peer Relationships
The power of the dragon cannot thrive in an environment of honesty and vulnerability. This is why the pull of isolation is one of the clearest signs that your life has become all about you. As Proverbs says, “A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion” (Proverbs 18:2). Powerful fools today may have many people in their lives, but they don’t have peer relationships with those who can oppose them, correct them or question them.
Listen: The people in my life who know me best are the least impressed with my accomplishments. They love me deeply, but they also know my mess. That’s incredibly healthy. Are there people in your life who aren’t so impressed with your “success” that they can be completely candid with you?
8. Inattention to Developing Other Leaders
“Toxic leaders,” Goggin and Strobel write, “do not develop other leaders because they pose a threat to their own power” (124). When other leaders rise in their organization, toxic leaders sabotage the new leaders’ efforts. When it comes time to step down, toxic leaders refuse to do so, even if it would be better for the organization.
Our attitude toward power should always be, “I will serve in this role until someone better comes along.” Always.
Don’t get caught up asking, in fear, “What will happen to me if I raise up this other leader?” After all, people don’t usually look to those who empower new leaders and think, “Well, that person is dispensable.” Empowering others isn’t self-sabotage; it’s wise.
But we shouldn’t just pour into others because it impresses other people. God forbid. We should develop others for their own sake. Are there two or three people in your life that you’re pouring into, hoping that they will one day excel, replace or surpass you?
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