Our thoughts are very powerful. Luke 6:45 says, “For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.” I learned at a very early age never to wish others harm. As innocent as people might think it is to cultivate these thoughts towards others, it is a dangerous playing field, and often these very thoughts or wishes not only harm others but also ourselves. If I am ever frustrated, upset or even coveting something of others, I just start praying for them and surrender my own earthly desires and the situation to God.
Everything good and bad happens for a reason. God knows the end from the beginning. Even as I went back through my timeline, I saw there were so many times it could have been so much worse. I am so thankful for where I am now as God used my experiences to grow me and to teach me to lean on him as he gave me strength to overcome.
My grandma would often apologize for how some of her decisions affected me, but in return I thanked her for what she did to help me, as she changed my whole life path. I hope that others can reflect on their own lives and misfortune and see God’s outstretched hands as he holds and carries them through difficult situations so they can find their own blessings and miracles.
What are some of the ways God fulfilled your ‘quest for family’?
God provided family when there was none. There were kind and loving people who stepped into my life filling many emotional needs, mentoring and teaching true leadership roles of traditional parenting.
When I was a hairdresser, my clients, coworkers and managers created a safe place of belonging, acceptance and a place to grow. As I helped others, they in turn poured into my life, inviting me into their own families and world.
In my own family, God restored everything the devil meant for evil and gave me the desires of my heart, growing a family to call my own. My husband and I are honored to be entrusted with the lives of our children, both biological and adopted, as we train them to follow God and his plan for their lives.
Through my career as a dietitian, I feel honored to be a part of the lives of people who are suffering from chronic illness as I get to walk them through hard places and help guide them to live healthy lives and have more time with their own families.
God also brought me to the biological father, siblings and family I never knew existed. Similar to the Job story, my dad had 10 brothers and sisters, all my aunts and uncles. God’s timing is always right!
What do you hope people will take away from your story?
We are all made for a purpose. Look back to understand your past, heal, and move forward to the purpose for which you were created. Don’t harbor bitterness and blame. Forgive those who have hurt you. This process will help you move toward the blessings God has for your life. My book has a forgiveness prayer that walks the reader through how to forgive those that have hurt us.
I stood on God’s promise during dark times. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” I am here to encourage you to seek God’s purpose in your own life.
Let people who have walked through hard experiences know they aren’t alone and their past doesn’t have to define them. Teach people who are going through hard times to look to God and run to Jesus instead of running away. Help create awareness in those who have been and are being hurt so they can recognize the hurt and learn to set safe boundaries in order to protect themselves and find healing in God’s covering.
Help others recognize the needs in those around them and lend aid to those who need it. I wouldn’t be where I am without all the kind and loving people who helped me.