The Post I Shouldn’t Have Posted…and How it Changed Me

I once wrote a post…

It’s been a couple years now, but it taught me a lasting lesson…

I wrote about a situation I was dealing with at the time…

It was a general post…

The post addressed a leadership principle involving a disagreement I had with someone…

A leadership issue…I write about leadership issues…

I thought I was right…he thought he was…

I still agree with my position…he still agrees with his…

It was not a staff member…and I didn’t mention the person…

It would have been hard to tell who I was talking about….except to him…

And he knew…

He called me on it…
(Honestly I didn’t know he read my blog…)

He didn’t think I should use my blog to address our disagreement…

I was using the power of a platform to address a personal issue…

He was right…I was wrong…(Not about the leadership position, :) but about using a post to address it during the disagreement)

I apologized…and immediately took the post down…

He accepted my apology and we are great friends today

I love that kind of relationship and proud of both of us for responding as we did…

It changed, however, how and when I blog about an issue…

The criteria I use now before posting on a real-life situation…

  • I never post in anger…
  • I sleep on it at least a night before posting…

I ask:

  • Why am I posting this?
  • Would I still post this if the person knew it’s about them?
  • Is this post helpful?
  • Is my version of the situation true for both sides of the disagreement?

Have you ever posted in anger? Has anyone ever called you on a post?

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Ron Edmondson
Ron Edmondson is a pastor and church leader passionate about planting churches, helping established churches thrive, and assisting pastors and those in ministry think through leadership, strategy and life. Ron has over 20 years business experience, mostly as a self-employed business owner, and he's been helping churches grow vocationally for over 10 years.