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5 Must-Follow Rules for Meeting Mentors

#3 – I Have a List of At Least Five Questions That I Want to Ask.

I remember John Maxwell saying to me once, “I will mentor you, but you have to ask the questions. I am not preparing a lesson for you…YOU guide this meeting. If you want to know something–ASK. If you don’t ask anything then we don’t really have anything to talk about.”

SO…anytime I meet with a mentor (especially JOHN), I am LOADED with questions. Sometimes, I get them all answered…sometimes, I don’t…but I NEVER walk into a meeting without having a list of what I would like to know.

#4 – I Don’t Talk About Myself Unless They Ask.

When I meet with a mentor, I don’t spend 30 minutes telling them about myself, my daily routine, my philosophy of ministry, and how good I think I am. I ask questions and then SHUT UP! If I disagree, I do not argue; in fact, if I disagree with something, I will usually ask them to explain their point of view a little more…which often times has helped me in SO many ways as I have learned that I really can love people even if we disagree! If they ask me a question in regards to what I believe about certain things, then I will answer…if not, then I will keep on asking them my questions. They didn’t ask to meet with me…I wanted to meet with them–TO LEARN from them, not debate them.

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