3. Get over Yourself
This leads me to my next point: Get over yourself. Many pastors like me have the gift of leadership and think we know exactly how things should go. The truth is we need to have a true desperation and dependence upon God and the Holy Spirit to guide us and be our vision.
Often times, our pride and ego gets in the way of making decisions. We can think that a staff member’s idea isn’t the way to go because it wasn’t our idea. When we get upset over something someone said or a disagreement, we ought to step back and do an ego-check.
I just had this happen recently. I got furious over one of my peers who didn’t seem to appreciate my gifting, background, and experience. I thought that the person didn’t appreciate what I bring to our team, but the truth is I was full of pride and was intent on bragging about what I had done instead of boasting in my weakness and giving God glory for how He’s used me over the years.
4. Respect What Each Person Brings to Your Team
When we put our pride aside and truly value those around us and who we work with, we are able to then respect what each person brings to our team. This truth is also fresh with me, as we are in the midst of a building project, and I co-lead a small build team that is meeting with the architect and planning our new building.
Because I had been a part of previous building campaigns and projects, I thought I always knew what was best. In some cases, honestly, I do. But in many cases, I have seen a layperson speak up with an idea that was priceless and truly not something that I would have thought of.
I have learned to appreciate each team member’s perspective, background, gifting, and life experience. I do this with my staff as well. I like to throw a question out at my staff meeting and ask what the team thinks about it. I believe I can really learn something from others on the team (older, younger, male or female) and that they can help guide our ministry.
Recently, I suggested the idea of starting a new LifeGroup (small group) for young marrieds in our church to our Leadership Team. I even had someone in mind to lead the group – a young couple that is in their late 20s/early 30s. One of my Leadership Team members (a layman in his 60s) spoke up and said we ought to have someone a little older lead the group – someone that had been there, done that and was in a different season of life. He suggested that the couple to lead this LifeGroup of newlyweds be a couple that had kids that age and could be a parent-figure to them. It was a great idea and something I had totally overlooked.