There’s a lot of talk about what small groups need to look like. How they need to be structured, what they need to study, and where they need to go.
Through all of this, group leaders can become overwhelmed. Group leaders want to have a healthy group, and instead of adding more to their plate, it’s time to start taking things away. There are tasks that are killing your group. And killing you, too.
Let’s quit those together.
10 things a group leader should stop doing.
1. Stop talking so much.
Group leaders need to listen way more than they talk. Listen to stories. Listen for pain. Listen for God’s voice in the midst of their group. Instead, most group leaders want to try to impress their group by how much they know and how close to God they are.
But that’s not what group members are looking for. And they’re not impressed.
2. Stop thinking so much.
Just love people and lead them to Jesus. Don’t make it so difficult. When you’re consumed by “planning,” the heart of the group gets lost. If you want to stop your group from sliding off of the hill, stop thinking so much. Let the Spirit prompt you in the moment. Maybe you’ve been relying on your plans and your agenda more than you have on God leading you. Instead of your leadership flowing out of your relationship with God, it’s flowing out of your to-do list.
3. Stop canceling group meetings.
This has got to quit. Let your group know that the weekly meeting is happening, even if it’s just you and your spouse. Don’t cancel because half of the group is out sick. Let this be an opportunity to get to know the other half of your group in a way you can’t when everyone’s there.
Oh, wait … you, the leader, aren’t going to be there? Then it’s a perfect time to give someone else the reigns and help them develop as a leader.
4. Stop meeting every week.
(Hey, it’s my blog. I can contradict myself if I want!) It might be time to give people a breather. Take a week, or two, off. Recharge for what’s coming. Let people invest in their family. Let people relax. Then come back ready to dive back into small group.
5. Stop sticking with a curriculum even though it’s terrible.
If a curriculum isn’t working for your group, throw that junk away. It’s not worth driving your group into the ground over. You might even put the curriculum down for the night and just study the Scriptures together. Try asking these three questions of a text:
a. What does this passage say? (Just repeat it in your own words.)
b. What does this passage tell me about God?
c. Based on what this passage says, what am I going to do?