Small Group Members Behaving Badly… Deal With It!

I’m on US Airways flight 1869 from Charlotte to Nashville. It’s nearly 11:00 p.m. and all is well… kinda. Seated directly behind me is a family of three… mom, dad, and mega-mouth boy. I believe the boy is about four years of age. This kid has a future… as an air raid siren. The shrillness of his voice and the decibel level with which he performs parallels that of a hyena just before a kill. The disturbing fact… Mom and dad don’t choose to do anything about it. They’ve counted to ten about a million times. They count but they never follow up with any kind of deterrent. Every person on this plane is affected by wonder boy. Only mom and dad have the authority to fix the problem.  No matter how many people’s lives are disrupted by the spoiled brat (can you tell I’m miffed?) mom and dad do nothing.

Small Group Leader, you may have someone in your group that is disruptive. They affect the lives of everyone in the group. They may be the overly-talkative person, the overly-aggressive person, the every night we meet angry at the world person, etc… Guess what? You’re the only one in the group with the authority to take the necessary steps to deal with these individuals.

If you don’t… they will continue to keep everyone else from experiencing the ride of their lives.

Not only that… they may keep everyone else from sleeping. Somebody please give that kid an Ambien so the rest of us can nap!!!  

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Rick Howerton
Rick has one passion… To see “a biblical small group within walking distance of every person on the planet making disciples that make disciples.” He is presently pursuing this passion as the Small Group and Discipleship Specialist at LifeWay Church Resources. Rick has authored or co-authored multiple books, studies, and leader training resources including A Different Kind of Tribe: Embracing the New Small Group Dynamic, Destination Community: Small Group Ministry Manual, The Gospel and the Truth: Living the Message of Jesus, Small Group Life Ministry Manual: A New Approach to Small Groups, Redeeming the Tears: a Journey Through Grief and Loss, Small Group Life: Kingdom, Small Group Kickoff Retreat: Experiential Training for Small Group Leaders, and Great Beginnings: Your First Small Group Study, Disciples Path: A Practical Guide to Disciple Making. Rick’s varied ministry experiences as an collegiate minister, small group pastor, teaching pastor, elder, full-time trainer and church consultant, as well as having been a successful church planter gives him a perspective of church life that is all-encompassing and multi-dimensional. Rick is a highly sought after communicator and trainer.