Tomorrow our family will gather, like most of yours, to celebrate Thanksgiving. I’ll be giving thanks for many things this year, but one of the tops is for my kids.
I’m particularly thankful that not one of my kids will ask me to cut up their turkey for them or feed them their cranberry sauce tomorrow. In fact, the girls are ready to help prepare the meal. We won’t have any babies with us this Thanksgiving, but if we did, they could feed them their Gerber Turkey and Gravy. This is no big deal, of course. It’s just a natural part of growing up.
So why do we so often hear long-time church folks say, “I just need to be fed!”?
I blogged about this the other day (click here to read. The writer’s main message here is what I’d like to tell those who say, “I just need to be fed!”: GROW UP!
Pretty simple and should be pretty natural as we develop, but for some reason, this is often the exception rather than the rule in churches and small groups.
There is no magic formula here. Your way of feeding yourself may be very different than mine, but I will share here how I am making room in my own life to feed myself.
When I was a young Christian, I read the Scriptures kind of like a young child reads a picture book. I wasn’t going for a whole lot of depth, just getting some basic understanding of the Bible. I read through the whole Bible, but could not have told you much more than the basic story. It was good; I needed that introduction to God’s Word, and I was just learning how to feed myself as I read through it.But (and here’s the important part) I’m glad I’m not still reading the Bible that way.
Today I read with more concentration, and by that I don’t mean mental focus as much as I mean intensity or purity, like a laundry detergent is more concentrated. So now I read less, usually much less, Scripture each day, but I really take time to hear from God in what I read that day. This is the spiritual practice of meditation or reflection on God’s Word.
I take an hour or two each day and I usually read one chapter of Scripture, sometimes even less, depending on how I sense the Holy Spirit leading me. Sometimes I read the passage from two or three or more versions. I read a couple good Bible commentaries. (My favorite right now is Warren Wiersbe’s commentary set, although I also consult several others as well. I use WordSearch, so all of this is right there in one place.) I also journal my thoughts as I meditate on the Word, writing what I hear God saying, and I often include a prayer.
I’m just finishing reading through the minor prophets. Lots of people skip over these, thinking they’re boring or irrelevant. As you learn how to feed yourself from the meat of God’s Word, however, you’ll find, as I have how much rich flavor and nutrients God has placed in these books. If you will take the time, God will reveal himself and his will through these passages like you’ve never seen before. You can do this. Your small group members can do this. It must become just as normal and natural as learning to feed ourselves from the dinner table.
Once I begin feeding regularly on God’s Word myself, I can also feed others as well. But notice that I used the word begin. You don’t have to have it all completely figured out to start feeding others.
When my kids were very young, I began involving the older kids in helping to feed the younger ones. So 3-year-old Jordan would hold Dru’s bottle in his mouth. Four-year-old Sarah would feed Annie her strained peas. Yeah, it was messy sometimes, but it was worth it!
Tomorrow I won’t be feeding my kids their Thanksgiving meals. And not one will say, “Daddy, I just need to be fed!” They’ve learned how to do that long ago. Now it’s time that you and the members of your group learn to do the same in your growing relationships with God. I’m writing more about that in my new book, Small Group Vital Signs, to be released early next year.
How would you respond to someone who says, “I just need to be fed!”?
How can you as a leader help your group members learn how to feed themselves?