4. We prioritize our marriage over our careers.
To do this, we have a tight budget.
We spend less than we make. We avoid debt. We do this so we can live on one income. We do this so we can invest in time away like our recent trip to Cancun.
We say no to overcommitment in our careers so we can enjoy regular time together.
5. We prioritize our marriage over our children.
We have four beautiful kids, but they will eventually grow up and leave. My relationship and friendship with Emily is more important.
Ironically, when we put our marriage relationship first, our kids feel loved and more secure. This is one of the reasons why we are strict about limiting the activities our kids engage outside of school.
6. We didn’t have sex before marriage.
We didn’t live together. We dated for six years before we got married.
I can assure you, we wanted to have sex before marriage. Again, God forgives. I know all couples can’t begin here, but we did.
And, I’m convinced learning that discipline to restrain ourselves before marriage has freed us up to thoroughly enjoy ourselves after marriage.
7. We’ve had lots of sex after marriage.
God created us to have sexual desire. Christian couples, in particular, need to get over their inhibitions, talk about sex and continue to discover.
Again, the principle of putting your spouse’s needs ahead of your needs holds true here as well. If you want to help your spouse avoid temptations outside of marriage, your sex life needs to stay spicy.
