People who have my back.
I tend to ask for advice from people who know me, and who I know have a predisposition to helping me be successful at whatever I put my hand to. If the person might be envious, or doesn’t have any genuine interest in the outcome of their advice, I go elsewhere.
People who have my back are also more ready to offer real solutions to the problem. They are willing to use their own network, their own time and energy, to help me navigate difficult waters. These are the Good Samaritans who will pull us out of the ditch, bind our wounds and help us recover when we’ve been beaten on the road.
Yet, they aren’t just do-gooders. They genuinely care about us.
The smart.
Some of the decisions we face as leaders are extremely complicated. Smart people help us find innovative solutions and solve complex problems requiring sheer smarts.
I have about a half-dozen ministry rocket scientists I consult whenever I’m facing an extremely complicated ministry situation that needs not only godly wisdom, but sheer smarts.
So, if you’re facing a situation that requires advice, look for a godly, wise, smart person who really desires your success. They obviously don’t grow on trees—but they are precious resources when they are found.
In my experience, they are “found” when we are intentional about relationship with others. My relationships with mentors and trusted friends in ministry is one of the greatest blessings in my life. I’d rather sit and talk life and ministry with a close friend in the trenches than do almost anything else.
However, the most reliable source of wisdom and advice is God himself—through His Word and Spirit. After listening to advice, don’t be afraid to do what you believe God has called you to do. Test that calling in prayer and seek godly counsel. Then, walk in the courage and strength of the Lord.
Two of the best decisions I’ve ever made in my life I made when nearly everyone I consulted told me differently. But, in each case, I sensed a clear call of God and went anyway. Sometimes the only Joshua and Caleb around you are those in you. Advice is advice. Call is call. Seek great advice, then obey God’s call.
