4. Plan some time away.
Put it on your calendar now to get away later. It could be for an afternoon, a day or a week, depending on what you can do or need to fully restore yourself emotionally.
The realization that you are actually going to have some down time often fuels you for the present. Plus, you’ll need the rest then even more.
5. Dream a little.
I like to stop what I’m doing and dream about some new venture, some change of pace, something crazy I’d love to see God do in or through me. Dreaming stretches the imagination and fuels your energy and excitement. Plus, you’ll never dream bigger than God can do.
6. Evaluate.
How often do these feelings occur and how long do they generally last? Are there areas of your life that are leading to feelings of loneliness? Are you isolating yourself from others? Do you agree to do more than you can physically do? Do you have a problem saying no?
Do you need to get better at delegating and sharing leadership? Are there really more people around you than your feelings indicate? Are things as bad as your emotions tell you they are? (They usually aren’t.)
Depending on your honest answers, you can evaluate how deep these feelings are and whether or not you need to seek more immediate or long-term help. (There is nothing shameful in a leader seeking counseling or coaching, whichever is needed most.)
7. Look at the big picture.
Again, things probably aren’t as bad as they appear. There are probably people around you who care and are willing to help. You are likely doing better than you feel you are right now.
But, regardless, leaders have to be the ones primarily thinking beyond today. You have to get beyond these emotions to where you are leading people who are looking to you for leadership.
What’s the vision you are trying to accomplish? You may not be where you want to be, but is it still a worthy vision? Has God called you to attempt it? Remember, it’s a marathon not a sprint in accomplishing the best things in life. Find the help you need. Re-energize. Grow through the experience. Move forward.
It’s easy to produce mediocrity. It takes patience, endurance and weathering the periods of loneliness in leadership to produce excellence. Which are you striving to achieve with your leadership?
If you’re a lonely leader today, I’m praying for you. Send me an email if you want me to pray for you by name.
What do you do on the days you’re lonely in leadership?
