Then I wrote another letter that basically said:
1. Thanks for taking the time to write.
2. I’m sorry you didn’t enjoy the event.
3. Here’s what I was praying for in the months leading up to the event, and now in the days following.
4. I hope you’re able to enjoy Jesus even more the next time you come to church.
5. May God refresh you with joy in him (and I mean it).
There was no good reason at all to start a war with this person. There was nothing I could say to convince them I wasn’t the worst worship leader ever. For whatever reasons (unbeknownst to me, even to this day), I had pushed a hot button for that person, which resulted in an inappropriately harsh letter sent to me, giving me the choice to either respond in kind, or as the theologian Queen Elsa says, to “let it go”.
I would have loved to send that first letter. It would have felt SO GOOD to throw some mud back into that person’s face.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” (Galatians 5:22-23)
The Holy Spirit gets in the way (thank God) of our desire to throw mud back at people, even people who tell us we’re the worst person ever. He allows us to respond with the kind of strength and tenderness that resembles—and glorifies—Jesus Himself.