You know what I consider to be one of the most awkward and challenging things about being a young leader? Having to lead people who are old enough to be your mom, dad, or even a grandparent. It comes with the territory, and boy is it difficult. I’m not even 30 yet, but in our ministry we have everyone from the first grader to the retired. At some level they all look to me for leadership.
How do we lead people that are older, wiser, and maybe even more competent leaders than we are? Here are four tips to help.
Lead humbly.
There is nothing worse than a “know-it-all” young leader. We may have the position and authority, but we need to wield it humbly. Arrogance and dictatorial leadership are signs of immaturity. Real leaders don’t have to force their authority, they garner respect by serving those they lead, and walking humbly. You do not have to discount the achievements of others to make yours shine brighter.
Lead wisely.
Do not be afraid to seek out the counsel of wiser leaders. Not too long ago, I noticed a behavior pattern in a much older leader. I didn’t think it was intentional, but it was representing him poorly. I felt like I should address it, but I didn’t want to go out of bounds. I confidentially talked through it with one of our pastors. Then, once I had their stamp of approval, I was able to respectfully talk about the issue with the person. It was very well received, even appreciated, and it strengthened our friendship.
Lead confidently.
When you are dealing with the older generation, show them the respect that they are due, but do not be bullied by “adultism” or think that your age undermines your leadership. There will always be those that think their age advantage qualifies them to overstep and overrule. Be confident in the authority you’ve been given, and when necessary seek reinforcement from your leadership. If you are leading well, and the person is still unwilling to submit, then it’s probably time for them to move on.
Lead intentionally.
The church is one of the rare places where a young leader like me can have to lead a millionaire businessman or CEO. Those experienced leaders can be a tremendous resource and support to you. One of the quickest ways to lose them, however, is leading without a clear sense of resolve and direction. If you’re leading them poorly, they won’t be long in your ministry. Leading qualified leaders is a privilege, and if you’ve been given the opportunity, make the most of it.
