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5 Surefire Ways to Train Your Kid to Use Porn

1. Nonromantic marriage.

Porn Training—Only certain kinds of women are porn-worthy.

The Christian home should be a sexual home. God said sex was good and His first couple were not ashamed about their unique sexualities. It was only when sin entered their world that people became giggly about sex and sexuality.

One of the biggest unintended consequences of the nonromantic marriage is how it communicates that certain people are not porn-worthy. Before your mouth completely hits the floor, let me explain.

A major characteristic of the porn-trained mind is how some people are worthy to be lusted after and others are not worthy. We all know who is worth our lust-filled attention.

Women certainly know what can draw the attention of a man. This is why so many of them obsess over how they look, how much they weigh, what they wear and the horror of growing old.

Though they would not connect this as being porn-worthy, many of them want to be worthy of their husband’s attention—they want to be desired. While this is not necessarily wrong, it can be deadly, especially in a marriage where the wife is not desired.

A husband who does not romantically pursue his wife can send a message to his children that she is not worthy of being pursued. She does not fit his criteria. She is not attractive to him.

Couple this with filling the child’s mind with sensual TV commercials and movies, and it begins to establish a kind of beauty that is worthy of a person’s gaze—a beauty the Bible does not exalt.

Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair, the wearing of gold or the putting on of clothing—but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.1 Peter 2:3-4 (ESV)

An effective way to highlight biblical beauty is for the husband to pursue his wife. Lots of hugging and kissing between a husband and wife can clarify in the child’s mind what real beauty is and help him not to become a porn addict.

Holding hands, dancing in the living room, hugging for long periods of time and smooching in front of the kids are beautiful examples of who and what is worthy of a man’s love.