5. Critical community in the home.
Porn Training—Criticism and anger are the most common ways we devalue others.
Is your home a critical community? Is it a place of encouragement, praise, affirmation and love, or frustration, impatience, criticalness and self-centeredness?
The porn world is a refuge where people go to escape the sadness of their lives. It’s a place where the addict can obtain personal satisfaction for his dissatisfied life.
There is no place on earth that has affected him more that what has transpired in his home. Even the church cannot accomplish what the home can, whether good or bad.
If the home is not a refuge of encouragement, your child will be tempted to find his refuge as a porn addict. Porn is always beckoning for the sad soul.
Porn will never criticize, condemn, admonish, discourage or disappoint. Porn builds up the hurting soul. All the addict needs to do is tweak his conscience to make it alright in his mind.
Once his conscience is appropriately hardened, he is home free—according to his self-deception. The best antidote for this kind of twisted thinking is to create a culture of encouragement in his home.
The porn-trained child.
Porn training happens by abdication. Children are responders, and they will respond, good or bad, to what is given to them. Their hearts are like open buckets, longing to be filled. It is the parent’s joy and privilege to cooperate with the LORD in rearing a child.
Parenting well does not mean your child is home-free. Parenting poorly does not mean your child is predetermined to be bad. A parent’s behavior does not determine the morality of the child. The grace of God does.
However, our personal responsibility to biblically steward our children does matter. We should not presume on the grace of God (Psalm 19:13).
The question for us to answer from this article is, “How do I need to change in order to cooperate with the LORD in the parenting of my child?”
