IT COULD HAPPEN 1: You want to date, but it seems so complicated. You’ve been talking with your friends and you all agree there are all these pressures on you all over the place. Truthfully, you’re not sure which ones to give into and which ones to fight.
• QUESTIONS: What pressures do you feel are on you as a (man/woman) in America today? What are some healthy and not-so-healthy expectations we have placed on the sexes?
IT COULD HAPPEN 2: Your friend just went on a date and loved it. In fact, they told you that they think they have “fallen in love.”
• QUESTIONS: What do you think they mean, and do you think someone can “fall in love”? Argue both for and against the truth of this idea in our culture.
IT COULD HAPPEN 3: You want to date. You’ve found someone who you like and who your friends approve of. But your parents have told you that you’re not allowed to date until you’re 16. Your friends think that’s lame and so do you.
• QUESTIONS: Should age be a factor in dating and to what degree? Besides age, what else would you say should determine if you date or not? When is it good to be single on purpose?
IT COULD HAPPEN 4: You’ve been dating for over a year and you’re headed to your senior prom. You’ll both be looking sweet and love will surely be in the air. Both of you are committed to each other and you’ve even talked about someday maybe getting married. However, you also know the night will pose lots of opportunities to push some of your boundaries.
• QUESTIONS: How will you decide what you do or don’t do on this date? What will guide your choices: both in terms of peer pressure and your sexuality? How far would you say is too far and how will you decide?
IT COULD HAPPEN 5: You’ve been dating for two years. You think you want to get married. You’ve both already “lost your virginity.”
• QUESTION: Should you live together to see if you want to spend the rest of your lives together before you officially get married? How would you make this decision?
IT COULD HAPPEN 6: You and your date have been going out for a while now. But all your friends keep saying that you fight too much. You think they’re being over-reactive and that you guys are fine together. Sure, you fight from time to time, but who doesn’t? Your friends insist that you’re not seeing things clearly and that you’re being manipulated. They tell you that you should break up.
• QUESTION: What are some things that would cause you to break up with a date? What are some reasons that dating couples stay in a dating relationship too long and are afraid to break up, even when they should? Whose advice would you seek if you were trying to decide if your friends were right or wrong in their advice?
IT COULD HAPPEN 7: You just got baptized. You want to follow Jesus and you’re involved in youth group a lot. You’ve been friends for a while with someone who has recently showed interest in dating you, but they don’t share your same beliefs about God and life. You like them and the interest in dating is mutual.
• QUESTION: Is it OK to date someone whose faith is different from yours, and how do you decide what you need to mutually agree on and what you can simply agree to disagree about?
