2.) HOLDING GRUDGES.
Holding grudges is another sign that leadership has gone awry. Someone has hurt you? Someone has disagreed with you? And now, weeks later (maybe months?) you are still resenting them? You’re inhabiting a mentality that says “they were not with me, therefore they are against me.”
Whenever I catch myself in this mentality I need to go to my knees and repent. It is a key indicator that I have assumed that I am in charge of the church (and its future), not Jesus the Lord of the church. I’m undercutting the Kingdom.
Forgiveness, forbearance of all people who disagree with me is a sign I am living in the Kingdom, that I am submitted to Jesus as Lord. So the first sniff of a grudge is grounds for me being disqualified from leadership in the Kingdom. It happens all the time. I must be called on this and repent.
Col. 3:13 Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
Ask yourself regularly (or with someone else): Am I holding a grudge, resenting someone for something? Why am I holding on to this? What does it look like to forgive, forbear one another and submit to Jesus reign in regard to this person?
