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The Super Bowl Halftime Show: Turning Your Overreaction Into Interaction

2. Prove You’re Approachable

Whenever I speak at a school assembly about sex & intimacy, kids always come up and ask me pretty explicit questions about sexual decisions they’re making. I think this happens for two reasons. One: I’m a stranger, which makes me safe. They don’t have to see me at church or school anytime soon. Two: I’ve proven myself approachable about this subject. I talk candidly with them on the subject without freaking out.

Here’s the interesting part. Whenever a kid asks me one of those typically-embarrassing questions like, “Can I get and STD if I just have oral sex?” I answer their question, and then I say, “Do you have anyone you can talk with about this?”

99% of the time they put their head down and answer, “No.”

Then I always ask. “What about your parents? Could you talk with them about this?”

And 99% of the time they respond by literally laughing. “No way.” And then they say these words:

“They’d freak out if I asked them that?”

Think about that for a moment. Most of our kids won’t ask us a question because they’re pretty sure we’d freak out. And how we respond in these moments (even in these halftime show moments) definitely influences their perception.

So what if we didn’t freak out? What if we proved that we were “safe.” What if we turned off the TV, paused our response… and just smiled. Do you realize smiles are contagious?

Imagine turning off Shakira mid-hip-thrust, turning towards your kids, smiling, and then saying, “Whose hungry?”

“But Mooooooooooom!”

“Sorry, I need a moment to think, because I don’t want to say anything hurtful. Who wants ice cream?”

Then have some fun with your kids. Focus on them. Do something they like while killing time. And after giving it some time…

3. Resist the Urge to Judge

At this point the temptation is to list out everything that is wrong with the entertainment media influence you just encountered, analyzing the lyrics, the inappropriate outfits, the obscene gestures… all valid points.

But one problem with this methodology: it puts parents in the position of lecturing.

What if we turned our lecturing into listening?

In a world so potent with explicit lies, what our kids really need to hear is the explicit truth. So what if we…

4. Point Them to Scripture

Which is better: parents listing out everything wrong with the entertainment media everyone just observed, or our kids reading what scripture says about it and applying that truth to real life? Consider the Super Bowl halftime show analogy. Maybe you delay the conversation until after the game. And finally, while eating dinner together sometime that week, read some scriptures. Don’t introduce that you want to talk about the halftime show. Just say, “Hey, let’s read a little bit in our Bible together tonight.” And after the groans, just read.

Here’s a few Scriptures about sexual imagery:

27 “You have heard the commandment that says, ‘You must not commit adultery.’ 28 But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 So if your eye—even your good eye—causes you to lust, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.  (Matthew 5:27-29, NLT)

18 Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. 19 Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself,20 for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body. (I Corinthians 6:18-20, NLT)

20 My son, obey your father’s commands,
and don’t neglect your mother’s instruction…
24 It will keep you from the immoral woman,
from the smooth tongue of a promiscuous woman.
25 Don’t lust for her beauty.
Don’t let her coy glances seduce you.
 (Proverbs 6:20, 24, 25, NLT)

Then resist the urge to lecture, instead, just ask these four questions about each of these passages:

    • What do these verses say? (Ask specifics like, “What does it say “anyone who even looks at a woman with lust in her eye” has done?” These simple observations help them comprehend what they just read.)
    • What does that mean? (This helps them interpret what they read.)
    • What’s an example of what that might look like today? (Asking for examples helps them apply it in general terms, which is safer than personal.)
    • So how does that apply to our life? (And finally, this question gets to personal application.)

These questions can be used with any scripture you read.

Or if you find that a deeper conversation is needed about the entertainment media young people are soaking in, then grab a devotional resource like The Teen’s Guide to Social Media & Mobile Devices, and turn straight to “Tip #14: Dissect Your Entertainment Media” or “Tip #4: The Whole Picture of Those Pictures” and go through those discussion questions with them. Or if you have a boy then maybe grab The Guy’s Guide to Four Battles Every Young Man Must Face, and engage them in conversation using the discussion questions in the section on “Screens” and the section on “Sexual Temptation.”

Being Calm in the Moment

Entertainment media can be distressing, and it’s not always easy being “safe” and “calm” in the moment. So buy yourself some time. Press pause—delaying your response. Prove you’re approachable—interacting with your kids calmly. Resist the urge to judge, instead turn your lecturing into listening—pointing them to scripture and asking questions. (Here is another example of what this might look like with music, or an artist they love).

What would it look like in your home if you turned your overreaction into interaction and helped your kids think Biblically about the media they’re soaking in?

Are you engaging your kids in these kinds of conversations?

This article about how to react to the Super Bowl Halftime Show originally appeared here.

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Jonathan McKee is the author of over twenty books including the brand new The Guy's Guide to Four Battles Every Young Man Must Face; The Teen’s Guide to Social Media & Mobile Devices; and the Amazon Best Seller - The Guy's Guide to God, Girls and the Phone in Your Pocket. He speaks to parents and leaders worldwide, all while providing free resources on TheSource4YM.com and TheSource4Parents.com. Jonathan and his wife Lori live in Northern California.