by David Jaramillo Burgos
When I think of discipleship, the parent-child relationship comes to mind. In fact, the word “discipline” comes from the word “disciple,” which means “learner.” That is, it takes discipline to make disciples of our children. This is an ongoing process that begins at an early age and then changes as children grow and mature. In this regard, we (parents) are teachers and disciple-makers, primarily through our example, rather than our words.
When referring to Christian discipleship, we need to think in terms of relationship, rather than merely a training process. The discipleship relationship is best transmitted through the process of life-sharing that includes emotions, values, and experiences. For this to happen, we need to create a family atmosphere.
How do we do this? Family psychology tells us that every parent should be a nurturer and a disciplinarian. A great parent must spiritually and emotionally nourish children. And this nourishment should be given with words of affection, admiration, security, and the declaration of life, hope and blessing. Children must know that the parents are accessible and conscious of their spiritual and emotional needs. Great parenting also includes lots of “play” time. I’m referring to sharing informal settings where it’s possible to know and be known. Going to the park, having a picnic, or watching a movie are great examples of this informal “fun” atmosphere. These are ways to strengthen relationships and grow in everyday life.
Finally, great parenting should correct, and challenge attitudes so that the character of Christ shines through. This is only possible if parents have first won the hearts of their children. The only correction that makes a lasting impact is also accompanied by love (1 Cor 8:1).
I once heard that you have to raise children like disciples because they will grow and surpass their teacher. The reality is that children grow, leave home, but will always be impacted by the relationships with their father. What kind of relationships do you have with your disciples?
